Comments for Control Freak

Comment on How to tell a lie by Kesha

Kesha — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 23:21:44 +0000

The best way to tell is to have a staight face. And make it very convincing. And dont laugh.

Comment on Setting up a straw man by Wilson

Wilson — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 20:53:00 +0000

Hi
Just found this Blog. Would you say that a person (my Wife) is a control freak if : after any comment /general oservation made by myself to her she always has a negative response returned. I at times to test her mention an oppion which i know she is in favour off, and await the answer which always comes back with the opposite oppinion which she had a few weeks ago.
What are your thoughts.

Mr Wilson

Comment on A monopoly of ideas by anonymous for a reason

anonymous for a reason — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 16:29:46 +0000

Oh my gosh–you must know my boss!!!!

Comment on Two-step argument trick by marla

marla — Fri, 16 May 2008 13:36:35 +0000

I know [what has to be],text book ex. of such a poor soul-my soon to be EX-spouse. I hate him.

Comment on No competition allowed by Millie Shultz

Millie Shultz — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 13:40:01 +0000

I just was fired from a job with a control freak boss like this and needed to understand the mechanics of what happened. I have been working for 32 years and never had anyone scrutinize my work as this manager did. I knew it was unhealthy.

Thank you for explaining it so thoroughly!

Millie Shultz

Comment on Making enemies by Marie E.

Marie E. — Thu, 17 Jan 2008 15:53:01 +0000

If you are working for a control freak, don’t bother giving suggestions that would improve the workplace procedures, etc. They will resist and you will wonder why anyone would not want to give something a try when the procedure in place is not working. You may even know from experience that what you are suggesting would be really helpful but it’s never about the workplace procedures, or anything else. If they are in a position of power, it’s about them and there is only 1 person that runs the show, good, bad or indifferent. You are a just a shadow. Agree with their way even if you don’t. You might adapt or decide find a different job. If you want to run things differently because you know you are as capable than this person, get whatever education or experience you need so that things can be done your way. Remember also that when the control freak goes against his superiors and resists them (which he will never do) then he will be out!

These people don’t realize that others work there too and contribute.

Comment on Setting up a straw man by annabell

annabell — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 23:02:39 +0000

Great blog. Is really useful. What I also find about “control freaks” is that if they make a mistake of if they hurt you –they wiil make you feel as if you were misbehaving and as if you had gotten them totally wrong. Like if you fall in love with such kind of person and he/she just wants to play with you– he/she will make you feel as if you were a lunatic who misinterpreted his /her bodylanguage or whatever. Of course, such things like having a crush on sombody who does not like you back happen. but a normal person would not let you feel guilty or ashamed of it and would act in a more self-conscous way.

Comment on Making enemies by Daisy Mae

Daisy Mae — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 05:15:43 +0000

Response to Wendy Miller:

“What is the reason one feels the need to control other people?”

Fear that S/He has no control over her/his life. These people stubbornly refuse to accept the reality of existence: that other people, events, and sundry phenomenon are constantly impacting their lives in large, small, or insignificant ways. They prefer to believe that they ultimately have control over the outcome/consequences of their actions, rather than accepting that the end result of their (or anyone’s) behavior has limitless consequences/impact on others, which are totally out of their ability to control.

They rationalize that whatever they do to persue their own interests is paramount to their own happiness, but ignore the fact that selfish pursuit reaps both negative and positive returns.

In short, a control freak is functioning on the emotional level of a toddler.

Comment on Islands of information by Pete

Pete — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 18:56:11 +0000

I agree with John – mostly, anyway. The problem isn’t so much that Notes is “bad at what it does” (though few would argue that it’s brilliant), but that it’s completely incapable of interoperating with anything else. In the rest of the world, with text-based, layered, known, protocols together with swathes of APIs, libraries, open-source implementations, getting two things talking just isn’t hard. In Notes-land it’s all opaque binary blobs, you can do what the designers thought of and that’s it. Yes, it has some scripting ability, but that’s not really enough. The only thing that can talk to Notes is Notes, and that’s why I’d never willingly start a new collection of data inside it.

Comment on Perfection is the enemy of the good by Marcos

Marcos — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 11:03:02 +0000

Very good article. Not perfect, though ;->