Comments on: Making enemies http://controlfreak.net/2007/05/07/making-enemies/ how to spot their tricks Thu, 20 Nov 2008 00:11:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: Marie E. http://controlfreak.net/2007/05/07/making-enemies/#comment-14563 Marie E. Thu, 17 Jan 2008 15:53:01 +0000 http://controlfreak.net/2007/05/07/making-enemies/#comment-14563 If you are working for a control freak, don't bother giving suggestions that would improve the workplace procedures, etc. They will resist and you will wonder why anyone would not want to give something a try when the procedure in place is not working. You may even know from experience that what you are suggesting would be really helpful but it's never about the workplace procedures, or anything else. If they are in a position of power, it's about them and there is only 1 person that runs the show, good, bad or indifferent. You are a just a shadow. Agree with their way even if you don't. You might adapt or decide find a different job. If you want to run things differently because you know you are as capable than this person, get whatever education or experience you need so that things can be done your way. Remember also that when the control freak goes against his superiors and resists them (which he will never do) then he will be out! These people don't realize that others work there too and contribute. If you are working for a control freak, don’t bother giving suggestions that would improve the workplace procedures, etc. They will resist and you will wonder why anyone would not want to give something a try when the procedure in place is not working. You may even know from experience that what you are suggesting would be really helpful but it’s never about the workplace procedures, or anything else. If they are in a position of power, it’s about them and there is only 1 person that runs the show, good, bad or indifferent. You are a just a shadow. Agree with their way even if you don’t. You might adapt or decide find a different job. If you want to run things differently because you know you are as capable than this person, get whatever education or experience you need so that things can be done your way. Remember also that when the control freak goes against his superiors and resists them (which he will never do) then he will be out!

These people don’t realize that others work there too and contribute.

]]> By: Daisy Mae http://controlfreak.net/2007/05/07/making-enemies/#comment-11181 Daisy Mae Thu, 29 Nov 2007 05:15:43 +0000 http://controlfreak.net/2007/05/07/making-enemies/#comment-11181 Response to Wendy Miller: "What is the reason one feels the need to control other people?" Fear that S/He has no control over her/his life. These people stubbornly refuse to accept the reality of existence: that other people, events, and sundry phenomenon are constantly impacting their lives in large, small, or insignificant ways. They prefer to believe that they ultimately have control over the outcome/consequences of their actions, rather than accepting that the end result of their (or anyone's) behavior has limitless consequences/impact on others, which are totally out of their ability to control. They rationalize that whatever they do to persue their own interests is paramount to their own happiness, but ignore the fact that selfish pursuit reaps both negative and positive returns. In short, a control freak is functioning on the emotional level of a toddler. Response to Wendy Miller:

“What is the reason one feels the need to control other people?”

Fear that S/He has no control over her/his life. These people stubbornly refuse to accept the reality of existence: that other people, events, and sundry phenomenon are constantly impacting their lives in large, small, or insignificant ways. They prefer to believe that they ultimately have control over the outcome/consequences of their actions, rather than accepting that the end result of their (or anyone’s) behavior has limitless consequences/impact on others, which are totally out of their ability to control.

They rationalize that whatever they do to persue their own interests is paramount to their own happiness, but ignore the fact that selfish pursuit reaps both negative and positive returns.

In short, a control freak is functioning on the emotional level of a toddler.

]]> By: Wendy Miller http://controlfreak.net/2007/05/07/making-enemies/#comment-5596 Wendy Miller Sun, 09 Sep 2007 07:07:53 +0000 http://controlfreak.net/2007/05/07/making-enemies/#comment-5596 I have come across so many control freaks in my life (including my own mother). I can't understand what makes one a control freak, since I am not one. What is the reason one feels the need to control other people? I have come across so many control freaks in my life (including my own mother). I can’t understand what makes one a control freak, since I am not one. What is the reason one feels the need to control other people?

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